I love this quote.
My kids have just had birthdays; my oldest is 20, my youngest is now 18. The quote above has been haunting me over the past few months, because at this stage, I’m reevaluating so many things in my life. My role as mom is slowly becoming less relevant as my kids grow more and more independent. It’s bittersweet because it’s the goal I’ve worked towards since they were born: to raise them as independent beings so that they can go out on their own when the time comes.
But the time is here, and it’s hard to let go. And I’m trying to figure out what I’ll fill my life with now.
Hence the connection to the quote above. I sure hope I find those new wings soon.
Hi Claudia,
I have already turned my kids loose. More or less. It’s not like you ever really do, not completely anyway. And a mother’s role is always relevant, but of course, I know exactly what you mean. All I can say about this shift you are facing is that I am finding my relationships with my kids evolving into something even better. So often you hear people say when their kids were little was the best time. While it’s true that is a very special time, I am finding this era to be something even more special in many ways. And I also fully realize how lucky I am to be here for it. Thanks for sharing the quote. I think you’ll be finding those new wings just fine.
Hi Nancy — Thanks for sharing how your relationship with your kids is evolving. In my heart, I know they’ll “come back” but in the near term, it’s been tough, lately. Once my son gets his college plans solidified, I think I’ll be able to relax a little. It will be an interesting year, next fall, with no one but myself and my husband at home…..!
Just loved this, Claudia. We have all experienced the uncertainty of the unknown. For you, it is letting go and embracing Self. For me, it is holding on and walking toward approaching motherhood. I pray that we are able to give our son both roots and wings, as I’m sure you’ve done with your children, and will cheer him on from the sidelines once he begins to fly.
With heart,
Dani
Thank you Dani, for your very kind note. I know you will be able to give your son roots and wings, you have such a big heart and will fill his life with love. All my best, xo
as a 53 year old daughter of 80 year old parents. You will always be relevant and you always be important to your children.
That’s very reassuring to hear, Meridith! xo